VERNA ON HOW TO CONDUCT RESCUES
I want tonight to talk some more about rescues. It is
our hope that eventually we will have a book about rescues and so
tonight we are going to talk about conducting rescues. We have
previously talked about organising rescues from our side and we thought
it was time we talked about performing rescues from your side.
Let us start from the point at which we have the
entity in the medium. Usually there are some difficulties in
controlling the body. This may manifest in different ways. You may have
someone who practices moving parts of the medium's body, such as hands
and arms, and so forth. Or you may have someone who is having trouble
with the throat - such as coughing, gasping in some way. During this
first period you should be encouraging the entity. Assure the entity
that he or she is welcome and that you would like to talk to them. But
do not keep on talking, one or two sentences is sufficient, then break
and wait and see what the entity does, how the entity responds. As the
entity starts attempting to speak or make sounds, re-assure them that
they are doing very well. If they seem to be tensing or arching the
medium's body or doing things which you fear may harm the medium, such
as perhaps, violent head shaking or throwing the body around in some
way, the entity should be told to relax, to breathe deeply. If you
suggest that they are going through a death experience, tell them that
experience is past. Speak calmly and be re-assuring, emphasising
relaxation and taking things gently.
When the entity starts talking, the first task is
to find out what the entity's situation is. Usually they are
remembering or even re-experiencing the condition of the death. It is
your task to get the entity to tell you about themselves. I am
emphasising ENCOURAGE, do not insist. One of the question usually asked
is: "What is your name?" If the entity does not readily give a name, he
may have forgotten it, and it may cause them to become confused and
dismayed if you keep on insisting to know what their name is.
I think I am trying to ask you to "go" with the
entity in this first part of the rescue. Accept what they say, do not
interrupt, if the entity takes his or her time.
The major task you have when they start to talk is
to get on a friendly wave-length. This is done mainly by accepting, and
this is very important; accept the situation in which the entity says
that he is in. Then you can start to try to find out what is the
problem. Asking them straight out is seldom effective, and at this
point you will have to, as you say, "play it by ear". It will vary a
lot with the different entities that come through, so much so that it
is difficult to give any real hard and fast rule, but if you sense that
the entity is getting upset about something, back off a little, do not
push that point immediately. Go back to a safer part and then try
again. The point of distress will often have something to do with the
reason for the rescue. But if it is another situation where they can't
remember, do not push them. Go gently with them. Allow them plenty of
time. If they want to pause, allow them to do so. Do not insist on
immediate answers, they may want to think about what you have said,
they may want to work something out before speaking about it, they may
even be weighing up whether they want to tell you about it, and
remember that is their prerogative. When you can discern what the
problem is, then you can start to talk about that problem. Keep
accepting the situation in which the entity is in. Do not dismiss all
in one go what they say is happening to them. Take it step by step. You
here already know some of the steps to take, but for the purpose of our
book, we will re-iterate them.
One useful line is to ask if they know that they
are dead. From this you can start picking up illogicalities. What is
happening, does what the entity thinks is happening fit in? Very often
entities will be reliving their life situation, and they may (for
instance) go shopping. Ask them, if their money is taken. The money is
very seldom being taken because the shop assistants do not know that it
is there, point this out to them.
Another one, if it doesn't happen spontaneously is
to get the entity to feel the body in which they are. This can
sometimes produce some alarm - a man finding himself in a woman's body
or a woman discovering she has a man's beard - she may need a bit of
re-assurance that everything is all right and that the body is merely
being lent to them. Another major cause of rescues is dying with
pre-conceived ideas of what to expect after death. Amongst the most
difficult of these are those people who firmly believed they are going
to sleep until the last "trump". They die with that belief, because
that was taught to them in life. They have virtually put themselves to
sleep and won't listen, won't accept anything else. They won't listen
to us, and so we will have to bring them into a body so that they can
feel that there is a difference between what they were experiencing and
the feeling of being in a body.
Other preconceptions are that they are going to sit
on a cloud and wear a white nightie or have huge wings on their back.
There are quite a few people who do believe that. We are glad to say
that the number is diminishing but it is till around.
Then, there is the preconception that they will be
in a life such as on earth and that that is all there is to it. That
they will perhaps have a house to look after and fields to farm and
perhaps other such activities. Entities can get locked into these
behaviours so much that they will not look up and see that something
different is possible. When you first come over to us, you can build
your own reality in a much greater way than you can in your world - you
only have to think of what you want and there it is. People can get
very carried away with this - it can be very pleasant, think of all the
beautiful jewels, extravagant houses and trips that you can go on. So
you may have to try to get the entity to see that there is something
more than this - but that is only the first step.
Then there are those entities who believe that on
earth they have been extremely wicked, and they can be expecting to be
cast into a fiery furnace and they may even believe that they are in
one, and you will have to re-assure them of God's love even for
them. There are those who believe that God is going to judge them, and
so they are waiting for God to come and pronounce judgement on them.
When they think over their own life, they just keep seeing it, like on
a screen. They are rehearsing it for the judgement, and do not realise
that they are the ones to do the judging.
Allied with this is the difficulty when the entity
believes that they have to punish themselves. There are those who
firmly believe that they must re-incarnate. These are only some of the
illusions of which you will have to, shall we say, divest people of, to
remove them. You will have to enlighten them. Remember, the entities
that you will be dealing with have not yet progressed much beyond what
they were when they were in your material world. And so approaches
which are appropriate to people in your material world will still be
appropriate for them.
The major one is acceptance first, look for
feelings and accept those feelings. Once you have established a good
rapport with the entity, then you can start working to remove their
mis-conceptions. You can confront them with the differences and
illogicalities in the state in which they find themselves. Then you can
talk to them about other things. If the entity is one who realises that
they are dead, talk about the surroundings in which they find
themselves. If they think they have limitations then at first accept
those limitations. Then, perhaps, take someone who has been deformed
when on earth. You can get them to look at their spiritual body. Now
you may get someone who still sees that spiritual body as deformed, and
this is a very strong belief which will be quite difficult to remove.
Keep trying to get the person to imagine a whole healthy body. Just
emphasise to them that they imagine it. Once you can get them to
imagine it, they will see their body become whole. Now for a while,
when they cease that imagining they will slip back to their deformed
body they are used to, and so you may have to get them to do it again,
until you can get them to see that it is their thought concept that is
governing the body in which they see they are.
Now when they are locked in to certain behaviour,
to certain activities, you can start talking about other things about
them that are available. Talk to them about the Halls of Learning. Talk
to them about meeting other spirits, seeing if there is someone who
needs help. You can talk to them about the work of helping their loved
ones who are still in the material world. You may talk to them about
working with spirits who have come here with some difficulty. We may
mention blindness as a difficult situation, we may mention the drug
addicts. We may also mention deformed people who come, they will often
need help from other spirits. We are talking at the moment about
deformed people who are not rescue cases, they will need help from
other spirits to overcome this concept that they have of their
deformity. People who have suffered the deformity and have conquered it
in the spirit world can help in this area very much.
I am getting Artie coming in.
(Pause. Then a different tone of voice and manner
Artie: When a deformed entity is trying to
produce that deformity in the medium's body there can be great distress
on both sides. Direct to that person all the love of which you are
capable. They are badly in need of it.
This is different to what I am used to. (He was
speaking with some difficulty.) We are trying very hard. (Pause. He
seemed very distressed) In early years of life we often have great
difficulties to put up with and this affects our whole attitude during
the rest of our lives. And we often carry the feeling of rejection over
with us into spirit. You see, we even reject ourselves. It is difficult
to accept a body which is deformed and unlike others. We see that brief
flash of horror on people's faces when they see us for the first time;
we see the mask that people need to have to prevent that again, or we
see pity. What we need is acceptance and love, please give us that. We
do not ask for pity - just acceptance and to be treated as another
human being. We know that this is often difficult for other people, but
when we pass into spirit, when we come through to you, give it to us.
(Artie then left and Verna returned.)
Those words can apply to many other cases. To give
love and acceptance to someone who has difficulty accepting deeds that
they have done on earth will, indeed, release them. Accept what they
have done in a gentle loving manner, do not be judgemental. They have
judged themselves so much.
The last part of the rescue will be when they are
starting to turn towards the high spiritual realms. Now you may feel,
at this point, that you have succeeded, you have got the entity out of
whatever was bothering him and they are moving onwards. Do not, at this
point, go back to asking questions about their material world. When
they are moving up to the spiritual direction, go with them in that
direction, don't bring them back to remembering the material things.
That can cause a sort of jolt to the entity and they can lose the
direction, at least momentarily, in which they were going. So once you
have got the entity accepting the spiritual world and breaking out of
the conditions that caused the rescue, don't take him back to those
conditions, no matter how tempting it is for you to try to get some
information which you may be able to check. Your prime duty and
interest is getting that entity to progress on into spiritual matters.
We understand it is very exciting to get something which you my be able
to check, but that is of secondary importance to helping the entity
progress on. One of the, perhaps we should say, orthodox, tricks of
getting entities to realise that they are in the spirit world is to ask
them to look around and see if they can see anyone there whom they
recognise and who has died before them. Usually, the parents are good
people to mention, especially in adults. In children, very often the
parents are still in the material world, so when you realise you have a
child, suggest grand-parents or try aunts and uncles, or even pets.
Pets will welcome you when you come on this side, so see if the child
had a pet which has died and ask them if they can see that pet. In some
cases seeing the pet is even more liberating than seeing a person,
especially for a child, because animals accept their owners as they
are, they are not judgemental. And after all, parents may be very
judgemental to their child. They need to correct their children so that
they will behave properly in the society in which they have been born.
Children must be taught certain abilities and skills to enable them to
lead a useful life in the material world. And so children will often be
corrected, moulded or even punished by their parents. But pets accept
you and so a pet can very often be a much more powerful releaser in a
rescue, even than parents. You also have the problem of when
relationships between the child and the parents have not been good,
perhaps there has been an abusive parent, or perhaps the child was
abandoned. If you have the case of a child who was abandoned when in
the material world, there is bound to be some resentment towards the
mother. Try to overcome that resentment. Explain the difficulties that
the mother may have been in, explain that the mother probably loved the
child but for material reasons was unable to care for the child. Try to
get over that resentment and get the child to accept the mother. You
could see some very wonderful reunions if that is ever an expect of a
rescue. Getting someone to forgive an old hurt is a very rewarding
experience, and remember that you may have to get them to forgive
themselves as well as other people. But do it gently, do not try to
overwhelm the entities into taking what you believe is right, remember
you have to go gently with them. You have to guide them, not push them.
You will always know when the entity is progressing on into the
spiritual direction - their facial expression will tell you. When you
can see an expression of joy or calmness, you will know that you have
succeeded. And if that entity wishes to talk about what they are
experiencing at that moment then allow them to do so. But make sure
that at the end, the entity is leaving and going with the spirits who
are there to welcome it. Make sure the entity knows that there are
guides and people waiting to help and that he or she is going with
them. Rescue work is one of the most rewarding in circle work. Not all
circles do it. There is so much that we want to bring through to you,
that we cannot do rescues as often as you would like, or even as often
as we feel is needed. Many souls come to this side and need rescues,
and we are always pleased when there is someone still in the material
world who can help in this way. Bringing a rescue through a circle can
often be much quicker than the way we work from this side, because
those screens which people can set around themselves can be very
difficult to break. But the almost shock of being in a material body
again can really bring an entity out of these set screens and ideas
that they have. It forces them to listen to what the sitters have to
say, whereas when we are working with them, they can still shut us out.
I am sure you know people in your material world who just don't hear
things - who don't want to hear. You know the saying 'None so deaf as
those who don't want to hear'. It applies on this side too. But the
shock of being pushed into a material body can very quickly break that
down, so that the entity has to listen to what you have to say to them.
And then it is up to you to use your common sense and, possibly,
inspiration from your people. We hope that these words will help to
give you a guide in conducting rescues. Remember to watch for the three
stages - the stage of coming into the material body, gaining control
over it; the stage of talking of the situation in which they are in;
and then the stage of discovering that there is more to see, that there
is more to experience and lead them up to that. And when you have them
there, leave them there. Do not drop back to one of the previous stages.
Go gently with your rescues and we pray that God
will be with you in this work.
Artie is one of the entities who come through the
medium under whom I developed. In his material life he had been badly
deformed as a result of boiling water being poured over him when he was
a very young child so that he would be a more effective beggar.
Consequently, he could not walk or talk. he first came through as a
rescue and had great trouble speaking, he became a regular "visitor"
and over the years his speech gradually improved. When he spoke through
me his speech was very laboured but much better than I had ever heard
him before. There was a tremendous amount of emotion while he spoke and
this was something which had not come across before.
He sounded at times almost tearful, hardly able to
control his feelings. A real heart-cry for sympathy for the disabled.
In the very beginning when I felt the entity coming
through there was a warm smile (on the face of the medium), eager to
come. Yet there were difficulties to overcome. I had the urge to
welcome the entity into our group as a friend. To encourage, to help to
overcome the obstacles. I did it mentally only.
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